Lou on Isaac Simpson's The Carousel

0:00 – Intro: Isaac Simpson on The Trouble With Wanting Men
3:02 – Written by a mother: the missing self-awareness
5:47 – An open marriage and the dating premise
9:19 – Scratching the scab of self-reflection
13:53 – The good guys she keeps dating
18:03 – Heteropessimism and academic queer theory
21:10 – He's Just Not That Into You
24:39 – Her divorce and her type of man
28:01 – J and the language of commitment avoidance
32:24 – The open relationship and falling for J
37:32 – Asa Seresin and the coining of heteropessimism
40:59 – Is modern dating actually any different?
44:02 – Isaac drops off and Lou holds the stream
48:11 – Isaac returns from a frozen connection
53:28 – Why to have kids younger
56:50 – MeToo and why men are afraid to pursue
1:00:29 – Men losing their drive and playing a role
1:03:42 – Why Isaac finds the essay encouraging
1:09:23 – What divorce and new partners do to kids
1:14:06 – The essay's final paragraphs
1:17:18 – Who would actually satisfy her?
1:19:52 – Girls, Adam Driver, and the abortion scene
1:23:19 – Lou's book and wrap-up